What would YOU do in this scenario?
Okay, my husband went without me & bought a truck we totally can’t afford (,000), but he DIDN"T stop there. Then, he had to get a ,000. stereo and amps/gps/dvd players on the backs of the front seats built in, sunroof, leather seat covers, truck bed cover that opens like a car trunk, remote start, tinted windows. Most of these additions are on credit cards. I was never asked about any of this & some of these cards are in my name. I make about half our income when you consider I provide med/dental insurance for the family (he can’t get it). Whenever I need something, he says the money isn’t there, well, no **** it’s not there, it’s being paid to banks every month for all his toys. I’m so BURNT OUT on working all the time & never having money for ME or the kids, it’s all going to his toys each & every month. Between the truck & the toys in it, I know it’s over 00 a month. We’re not rich. I don’t think he should be out showing off in his fancy pimped truck while the kids and I don’t have any extras. I really don’t even feel like working anymore, I’m tired of it all going to him when he’s virtually no benefit to me anyway. What would you do????
12 Responses
Rick T
31 Jan 2010
shoots den
31 Jan 2010
cancel some of your credit cards, and keep either one or two for emergencies. has he seen any of these bills???
Brick
31 Jan 2010
leave. he doesn’t care about you. you do what is best for you, honey.
(I loved a selfish spender once, and became homeless and lost everything because of him… and he just moved on to another woman when I had nothing left to take. I hope you don’t let it get that far.)
Hier.Kommt Die.S
31 Jan 2010
sell the truck and get a divorce.
Alexander D. Mad
31 Jan 2010
Quit. Make that fucker work for his own shit, that or open your own bank account and put YOUR money in it. Dont be stupid
Julie lamo LOL!
31 Jan 2010
wow wow dont just divorse him just coz of this if you actually love him plus you hav kids, just tell him how you feel n if he doesnt change then take your credit cards back to stop giving him access to your money without your knowledge at the very least.
hope i helped
A Tom
31 Jan 2010
Awww Christ! You, hubby and the kids will all be dead in a hundred years. Tell him you want to drive the truck.
You’re lucky to have these problems, some folk have to feed their kids garbage.
Nat
31 Jan 2010
Tell him to sell the truck to pay off some of the debts, and if he wants to have anything material then tell him to save up for it out of HIS pay. Take your name off the cards and stop paying them, let him pay them. You pay cash for what ever you need for you and the kids and have your own bank account.
I never was one for "what is mine is his, what is his is his"! I have always had my own bank account, and if there are joint bills to pay then we divvy it up and both transfer the money to the appropriate places. The only thing we DID have together was a substantial savings account meant for emergencies, but he drained that completely for Scientology, so I now don’t put a cent in there, I have my own super saver that he cant touch.
Just get tough matey, and if he doesn’t like it, tough!
sissy
31 Jan 2010
omg, you poor thing..would you believe mine just did the same thing but the truck wasn’t but 2000 and we are poor,,all he thinks about is his truck,he has rook the paycheck every week and buying parts and paid people to put speakers in and every thing,,and he leaves me every weekend to go to his buddie to work on it,after i been on him to take me to the doctor for my health ,,but says we don’t have the money,, he says he works and its his money,,i am so mad ar him right now,,sick of his f…. truck,,i don’t know what we should do,,i cant afford a divorce,,i don’t work cause he wont let me,,so i guess i need to work no matter what he says and get the hell out of here,,you got your baby’s and that should make him think that they come first,,but they say its a guy thing,,i don’t care,,men should ask us too to make a decision on what to buy but they don’t,,so i wish you the best sweetie and hope you can work things out.
Paul V
31 Jan 2010
It’s time for a practical family guy like me!
T03KN33™
31 Jan 2010
that was selfish of your hubby, to buy something that cost that much and not discuss it with you.
get rid of the credit cards, those things are the devil in disguise
Deber
31 Jan 2010
He’s selfish. I wouldn’t say divorce him. I would say you can discuss this with him and let him know how you feel. Not paying the truck payment one month and taking $1000 for you and the kids is an idea, just take it out of the bank. Then, he can struggle to make a back payment and feel the heat from it. If you don’t put pressure on, there’s no need for him to change. You have to compromise and it sounds like he needs to think about that. It sounds like you are irritated at him anyway because you have to work. Having what you need, not what you want, is still a blessing.
I wouldn’t live with some one that would go out and buy some that cost that much without discussing it first.