Comments on: emotions after a car crash?

By: Nikki

Nikki — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 22:48:49 +0000

Most people tend to be afraid after experiences like yours, but everyone handles trauma in their own way. You should only be concerned if you start feeling the need to act out on your hatred and anger, or if your feelings linger and leave you unable to go through your day-to-day life as you once did. In that case, you would want to seek help.

By: choko_canyon

choko_canyon — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 22:48:49 +0000

You are right to put the word "normal" in quotes. Normal is a subjective term, and it’s not relevant. You feel what you feel. You ARE slightly traumatized by the accident, but instead of the trauma manifesting itself as fear or nervousness or crying etc, it’s manifesting itself as guilt and anger. Accept it, ignore what other people tell you that you "should" feel, and know that it will eventually pass and all you’ll feel is grateful that you were smart enough to wear a seat belt.

By: Popoffjuice

Popoffjuice — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 22:48:49 +0000

I’ve been in several traumatic accidents and I’ve had dreams about them afterwards. However, I never showed any emotions to my parents about them and your mother seems to not realize that this could be the case.

I’m not sure why you would feel guilty about the accidents…most of the bad accidents I’ve been in I caused and I still feel guilty about them. However, there is only so much you can do- only so much guilt you can feel. Eventually, you have to move on. Your feeling of hatred should be expected- it is a natural human emotion- one that we experience to protect ourselves. With time you will completely recover and eventually you will look back on this as a vague memory.

Good luck and God bless.

By: justwondering

justwondering — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 22:48:49 +0000

Hard to tell what is "normal" since we all try to appear "normal" by not showing our real emotions. I sure don’t want the general population to know I have a real strong anger reflex – in fact it may be my most pervasive emotion. I do feel the whole range of emotions, but not to the level of how I feel anger. After an accident (nothing close to yours) I did not feel anything after the original panic but for a month or so after wards I did get freaked driving. You can’t be forced to feel an emotion – although living with hysterical over reactors may cause you to join in. Check out the people getting off a roller coaster – they sure are not all smiling – and wouldn’t that be a "normal" reaction to a fun amusement ride?

By: ryan c

ryan c — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 22:48:49 +0000

there are some people like u do not worry about it and get over it easy and too me it sounds like your mom is nice because she cares so mach but she needs to see u are ok it must have scared her wean she got the call " Madam your son wes in a car crash " at this Point she may be thinking OMG is he died is he ok is he in a coma" this may have been a big shock and making it hard to get over it but u should tell her u were scared during the accident but tell her in a nice voice "im ok mom" and may want to show her this massage if so this is for her
"i think it is great u care so mach i wish i would have had a mom like u
my mom left me and my sis and now i live with her.